A Love That Hurts ....

11757lovehurts011250341397The popular pop artiste, Keri Hilson, sang a song that says "this love is taking all of my energy....." while the well known Rihanna sang "... we found love in a hopeless place...." One thing that is common about these two songs is that both songs talk about a love that hurts, a love that's painful, a love that breaks your heart, a love that steals your peace, a love that drains you of all your energy.  Is that the kind of love that you have?
The first scenario is a love that saps all your energy. This kind of love makes you feel as if you have met your soul mate, that without him/her, there can be no other. This love requires you to keep giving and giving and giving. All you do is give. You give your love, your time, your energy, your money, your body, your everything! By the time you are done giving, you find out that you are exhausted but everything is still the same.
He/she doesn't love you any more than they did when you started giving. They take all you give, because it's beneficial to them but they do not reciprocate. They know what you want and they know they can never give it to you and yet, they keep taking and taking for you. Is this love stealing your energy?
The second scenario is where the love you have, you found in a hopeless place. What then is a hopeless place? A hopeless place is any place that is not in Christ. You and this person are fornicating, drinking, partying all night long, doing drugs, .... all these places are hopeless.
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He/she does not love you yet they are obsessed with you. They cannot stand seeing you with any other person. They are manipulative and controlling, they want everything to be done in their own way and in their own time. They want you to love them their own way.
If he/she abuses you, yet you stay with them, you are in a hopeless place. He/she abuses you physically, verbally and emotionally. He/she beats you whenever they feel like it. You have become the punching bag. He/she beats you, forcibly have sex with you and then you cook for them? You are in a hopeless place.
The love that comes from God does not hurt. Olivia Pope wanted a love that hurt, and she got it. In her words, she said:".... I don't want normal, and easy, and simple. I want.. I want painful, difficult, devastating, life-changing, extraordinary love. Don't you want that, too? But guess what? You are NOT Olivia Pope. You are a child that God loves, that Jesus died for, that is worth more than gold, silver or bronze. You are worth more than diamonds. You are the greatest of God's creation.
Let go of that love! It's not yours, it's not God's promise for you, it's not the gift that you have been given. Let it God and let it go now. If you are too distracted or focused on something that isn't yours, what is yours will pass you by.
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you are in love (or at least you think you are in love) with someone and that person does not seem to love you back (or at least, love you back enough). Let it go, move on and find the love that is promised you.


14 comments

  1. i really love your blog.keep impacting and making a difference.God bless and keep you!

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  2. Where then do we find real love?

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  3. I NEED HEEEELP!!! I dated this babe like four years ago and the break up was nasty, my sisters embarrased her in school and I sent her a very insulting text message which also insulted her mum, her mum had been divorced and I told her she would end up like her mum, it was a very disgusting thing to do then, I loved this babe and i was deeply hurt because I heard she was cheating on me with someone in her school, I later found out it wasnt true. Few months after that, I saw her and I apologised to her and her mum, we kept in touch but we were no longer close. Fast forward to four years later; about a year ago, she met a friend of mine and they started dating, the guy proposed and travelled abroad, it was during this period their relationship began to have issues, we stayed friends all these while but recently we have started dating, she tells me she’s over the guy abroad but she wants me to be patient so she can break up with him in person when he comes back to Nigeria sometimes before june but my problem is why she cant just do it over the phone. She knew my mum was around during the break and she wanted to meet my mum so i introduced her, although her mum is against the relationship because she thinks I could still be the same person, the chic sure knows better otherwise she would never date me, I am shocked she wants us to do this again and I am committed 100% not to ever hurt her again. My fears are that I may be the back up plan but do women ever want to meet the mum of their back up plans?

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  4. you speak from a place that most people think little about. That,s the most meaningful writing ever. i want to do same.

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  5. meeting ur mum is her trying to make sure you are not playing her .To see that u are ready to really be with her and that you are not giving her flak

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  6. Yasmine! It's been ages... how have you been?

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  7. heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeey wassupp how u doing so far?

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  8. This blog is soooooo real. Like you are clairvoyant or something. I think about these things and feel am weird for thinking about them. Now i see am not alone......

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  9. Aww thank you! That's my goal precisely, to find people I can relate with... :)

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  10. I'm fine o... I'll post soon. Thanks Love!

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