For The Love Of Valentine....!

images (1)Except you are living under a rock, you will know that what everyone seems to be talking about is valentine. "Who is your valentine?" "What are you getting your boyfriend?" "Any romantic dinner plans?" and many more are such questions that will flowing from the mouth of ladies in this season.

While I will not bore you by giving you the origin of Valentine, we all know it's about lovers all around the world. So, typically, February 14 seems to be the day that most single ladies dread the most. Especially when all your friends are either in a relationship, married or engaged. As a single lady on valentine's day, (especially one who is seeking to be in a relationship), you feel left out of the whole shenanigans. But does this have to be?

Who says valentine is only meant for lovers? Tell me who says that you, as single woman cannot be a part of the celebration?  I'm particularly focused on ladies because we are the ones that tend to feel most affected when holidays such as this come around. So what can you as a single woman whose heart is dedicated to God do on Val's day? How can you make valentine a lot more interesting for yourself?

  1. DON'T get pregnant! There, I said it. The worst thing you can do for yourself is to images (2)become an easy lay; go to the club and drown your sorrows in a bottle of Heineken only to end up in a random guy's bed? Bad idea!

  2. RATHER, why not treat yourself to something nice? Take yourself out to the spa or get a massage and come out feeling like a million box? Good idea!

  3. DON'T gather your single friends together and have a pity party. Don't let your other single friends "ping" you and talk about how their life sucks because they didn't get any gift.

  4. RATHER, go have lunch or dinner with a couple of your friends (male & female) and just relax and have fun. You could even go bowling.

  5. DON'T  sit on the couch with a bucket of ice cream, watch romantic movies and cry your eyes out. Trust me, you will feel like hell the next day.

  6. INSTEAD, buy a bouquet of flowers and a box of chocolate for a friend of yours whom you know could use some TLC (tender loving care). Show him/her some really good loving.

  7. DON'T stay on bbm keeping track of all the great gifts that your friends are receiving or even feel jealous of them just because they got something and you did not.

  8. imagesRATHER, make yourself a mysterious valentine to someone. Buy the person gifts without revealing your identity and just delight in the person's excitement. (Don't do it for a guy you have a crush on; he probably has a gf.)

  9. DON'T try to forget what day it is by hiding the calendar or flipping it to another month. It won't work. Between Facebook, twitter and bbm; you can sure you'll remember it's val's day.

  10. RATHER, why not be like me? :D It's going to be just another day because I'll be at work all day and school later at night. BUT, you can be sure that I'll be treating myself to something nice, fun, expensive and exciting! ;) Nope! I'm not telling ...

If you are single and you don’t want to be, start now to think about what is in the way of you creating the relationship you want. Find ways to work on becoming the person your dream partner would fall in love with. If you are single and you like it, now is the time to affirm your choice. People who never marry or partner have close, loving, emotionally intimate relationships and lives worth living. Do not let a couple-driven culture define your choice as something wrong.

Most importantly, you should spend Val's day acknowledging the greatest love of all. The one who gave his life for us. There is no greater gift that can be given, than the gift of salvation. Thank God we are saved. I love you and a hope you have an amazing valentine!



  1. Thank you so much for this piece am blessed, its one thing to have friends engaged and getting married every saturday, its another to know there're people who share same faith with you, I've being out of a relationship for the past one year + am not in a haste to settle down for anybody, I so muched enjoyed my val cos, I ended it in the presence of my Heavenly Father who understands me better than anyone and Jesus is the bestest Val to celebrate with. Thank you

  2. Wow! Thank you! I'm sorry for responding this late. I do hope you had a memorable Valentine. Stay blessed!


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