"Act Like A Man, Think Like A Lady" - #10TipsToFindingAGodlyWoman

So I realized that there are so many posts out there that talk about getting a man. Posts such as: 10 tips to getting a man, how to get your man to love you, how to get him to propose, and most recently Steve Harvey's "Act Like A Lady Think Like A Man". Notice anything about these topics? They are all about the woman trying to get a man! While I'm neither a feminist nor a sexist, I think all those posts are highly overrated. Moreover, didn't the bible say "he who finds a wife ...?" Ladies, it's time for men to start doing the finding.

How about posts on how to get a woman? and how to please a woman? And tips on finding your wife? All some men do is just to sit and complain about how there are no "good" women out there, that's a load of bull crap. There are millions of great women out there, you just have to be rightly positioned, as a man, to be able to attract a great woman.

So, what are the 10 tips for men on getting/attracting/finding the Proverbs 31 woman?

Tip Number One: Know What You Want. So many men out there are confused, to say  the least. They have no clue about the kind of woman they want. That is no way to live. There are millions of women out there and you can only make the search easier by setting some standards and defining what you want. This includes physical appearance, spiritual life, etc. Ask yourself, who is my kind of woman?

Tip Number Two: Always Look Presentable. It does not matter if the woman is the holiest of all, it is your appearance that she will first see, before she sees your inner man. Work on yourself, on looking nice and presentable. This does not require you to break the bank and neither does it require you to alternate between Gucci and Tommy Hilfiger everyday. You just need to make an effort. Look clean, neat and well put-together. Women love to show off their men and if you are not worth showing off, then you are not worth dating.

Tip Number Three: Have A Focus/Vision. This tip requires you to ask yourself, where am I going? What am I working towards? Great women are attracted to men who have a sense of destiny and a destination. You need to be living a purpose driven life. If you are a man who wants to be a chef today, a rapper tomorrow and a pastor the day after that, you are not ready for this woman.  Are you 30 years old, still driving your father's car to the club, sagging your trousers and screaming I love Wizkid!!!? You are not ready. What is your aim in life?

Tip Number Four: Develop Yourself. You have to work on your total person. A good relationship is not about what you can get but what you are willing to give. Work on becoming the kind of person that you want your wife to be. Do you want a generous woman? Learn to be generous. Live the kind of life you will live if you were already with that woman. Become what you expect that woman to be. Develop interesting things about you, work on your talents and interests. What are you good at? Something as to make you stand out in the crowd right?

Tip Number Five: Look in the Right Places. listen, you have to learn to look for that woman in the place you expect to find her. This goes back to knowing what you want. It's not just about going to church, but there's a difference between going to bar to find a half naked woman and going to the library, the soup kitchen, to friendship centers, to your married friends' houses etc... Also, while you are looking, look alone (for the most part), it does not hurt.

Tip Number Six: Drop The Excess Luggage. Stop going around saying "I am a woman's man" or "I just tend to have women around me, I can't help it." Rubbish! Drop 'em and drop 'em now! There's nothing wrong in having few female friends, hey, your best friend could even be a girl but don't be drowning in them. No woman wants to compete for her space in her man's heart. Drop all the "unnecessary" girls that you hang out with. All they will simply do is obstruct you on your journey and make it a lot more difficult than it should be.

Tip Number Seven: Learn How To Cook or Learn to be Hands On. There's nothing more sexier or attractive than a man who can cook a good meal. Sure, your wife will cook for you (if that's what you want), but it will only do more good than harm, if you learn how to cook. There's just something appealing about a man wearing an apron and enjoying it. I don't know a woman that would not love that. Ok, so you don't want to learn how to cook, be hands on, learn to repair the car or perm her hair, loosen her braids for her.... you get the gist? Get out of your comfort zone.

Tip Number Eight: Learn To Treat A Woman Right. Blessed is the man who knows how to treat a woman right. A woman brought you into this world and so treat a woman like you will treat your mother (all things been equal). Open the door for her, if she went shopping the whole day, the least you can do is carry the grocery bags from the car, or bike etc.. Don't talk down to her, don't ever hit a woman, don't exchange words or talk back at her; trust me, you won't win. Be patient when dealing with her. Respect her and most importantly, love her.

Tip Number Nine: Erase All Negative Impressions. Due to no fault of yours, you might have a negative perception of women. But to be able to find the kind of woman you are looking for, you have to open minded, without any doubt that you will find her. "If you close your eyes for all the bad women to pass, by the time the good ones pass by, you will not know."  Not all women are materialistic, not all women dress inappropriately, not all women are "not good enough". Be open and free minded.

Tip Number Ten: Pray For Direction. This is by no means the least of all these tips, if at all, it is the most important. If you want a woman that you will spend the rest of your life with in peace and contentment, then pray for her to be sent by God. I cannot over emphasize how important this is. The power of prayer in the issue of life partner is evident in the bible. Remember how Isaac found his wife? Genesis 24 vs 1-67? You really need to read that story. While it might not work like that anymore, it's the same God, yesterday, today and forever.

So those are my ten tips. These list is by no means exhaustive, but it should be enough to get you started. Did I miss something? Do you have other ideas? please leave them in the comment section. I love to hear from you.



  1. Wow! Wow!! Wow!!! I think it will be a good idea to have this in a book. I'm going to read this over and over again until I find that woman.

  2. GBAM! GBAM! GBAM! hope it goes viral .....

    Men be honest and straight forward, dont say what you think she wants to hear. A woman respect an honest man that is not rude while doing it, it just shows maturity..

    Thou shall not show your insecurity even if you have one, better still work on it before entering a relationship

    Thou shall not be rude whether to her or your friends it just indirectly shows what you are capable of

    Thou shall seek deliverance from the spirit of "road rage"..Trust me once you display that when she is in your car it says alot..Remember, you know a man through how he handles power, money, pressure and anger..

    Dont fake it cos you wont last long..if she doesnt see it, people around her will see it and she will eventually see it..:P

    When you go to a party, dont ask your female friend to get your food if you didnt suddenly develop a sickness. She is watching how you treat ladies around u..

    When you go to parties, dont dance more than the host/groom/celebrant, save dat for when you are with your buddies..

    Smile smile smile..You cant save the world trust me! Jesus came but the world still no wan hear..Keep your problems at home

    No rebounds!! Stop jumping relationships or looking for a trophy babe when you aint even one..just saying

    Allow me to reblog this :)

  3. this is very revealing and insightful


  4. Nice one, Its really cool. Wld definitely show dis to my broda and his frnds.

  5. Reblogged this on diaryofaseeker and commented:
    Hi People, Saw this on a blog and thought it'd be nice to share it... Enjoy!

  6. Wow! OMG! Thank you so much for sharing this and please, feel free to reblog. Thanks.

  7. Please do Samuel and you shall find her in not time.

  8. olowookere laide tosinSeptember 20, 2012 at 6:49 AM

    Nice one.

  9. Wow! I so agree with you on this one, dear! Tip #10 is the ultimate...then some guys don't even like Tip #6. My friends, the guys gotta read this. I am so sharing on my page.

  10. Yes ooo, please spread the word. Thank you!

  11. nice piece... sha i have nt applied #10 tip mayb datz y am still single. but all u say tis true. cheers

  12. nice piece. can relate to all d mentioned tips. nt applied #10 yet mayb y am still single :d

  13. Tip #10 is the ultimate of them all. Try it and be patient, it will work. And when it does work, please come back and share it with us ooo ...lol Thanks!

  14. She kills it once again....Thank you for opportunity you are giving to this guys, they needed this more than they know

  15. heheheh Thank you!!

  16. Wowzer!...This rocked on all counts...I must say I love your spirit...it reeks of wisdom and down-to-earth inspiration from God.
    I think all men(and the women that love them) should read this...I had a good laugh reading this too...
    Thanks for sharing this profound post ma'am!



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