Common Sense Number 5: Never Look Down On Anybody

Number 5: Never Look Down On Anybody

When Stacy met Charles, Charles was working at a quarry in a remote area in Nigeria, earning 10,000 Naira per month. But Stacy stayed with him, loved him and married him. They now have 2 kids. Today, Charles works for an Oil company, drives a Nissan Armada SUV with the intention of buying Infinity! Get the gist?

Our problem in this 21st century is that what we define as prosperity is actually materialism. This is wrong. True prosperity is not materialistic. Never look down on anybody. The road to the top is at the bottom and everyone that is big today started from somewhere not so honorable. The man may not have a car, a nice job or wear designer shirts today, that does not mean he will not have all those things and more tomorrow.

Most of the time, we ladies expect from men what they cannot produce yet and so we put them under pressure. Such men will then do everything they can to win your heart and because they did not win you heart the right way, they "break" it. There's nothing wrong with starting from the bottom with someone. "Despise not the days of little beginnings" Zech 4:10.

If you are a man, and you are in a relationship with a lady that is always demanding for material things, you have not met you wife o, better let her go now than be miserable for the rest of your life.

Such a woman is Ishmael. God will always remove Ishmael from your life so that Isaac can find his way in and if Ishmael does not go, Isaac cannot come. (Gen 16, 17, 21, & 25). You need to "free" such a lady so that the one that will give you peace of mind can come in. Although there are very few of such ladies around now, they still exist. If a lady loves you, then she will not ask for more than you can give. Ladies, we should be willing to start out with a guy. A man does not need to have it all before you marry him.

This does not mean you should settle for less. It only means that you have to learn to have the eagle's eye. Learn to look for potentials in men. A man that has a vision, is hard working and determined is unstoppable. Most of us ladies want "finished products" and "ready made" men. While such men are out there, most times, it does not happen that way. Why not try and see the kind of investment you can make in the future of such a man (I'm not saying you should give him your bank account). If God does not give you finished product, he will give you raw materials and if you apply wisdom, you will turn the raw materials into a finished product.

Also, to you men, you need to be focused more on "seeds" than on "bread". You brought you father's car to the club, that's bread. But if you have a focus and vision, then that's "seed". Stop deceiving yourself. Invest in your future and your destiny. Don't be lazy and don't while away time. Pursue your dreams, pray and believe in yourself. Because if you don't have confidence in who you are and the potentials you carry, convincing a lady to believe in you will be a challenging task.

"For the vision is yet for an appointed time, but at the end it shall speak, and not lie: though it tarry, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not tarry." Habakkuk 2:3.



  1. query or quarry? ...
    I agree with you. The stone which the builder rejected today might be the cornerstone tommorow!


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