Common Sense Number 4: Never Wave Away Warning Signals

Number 4: Never Wave Away Warning Signals

I once met this guy, who was very sweet, nice, God fearing and all that good stuff. I thought ok, this might just be the guy.I called my Pastor and told him about the guy. My Pastor said I should keep being friends with him. I heeded my Pastors words and did not commit myself to the relationship. Soon, the guy started exhibiting some traits that I knew I could not deal with. I was the one always doing the calling and texting. If we spoke 10 times in one week, I most probably called 8 of those times. And when I ask him why, he'll say he was busy. This is my motto: "If a man wants you, he'll come after you." Period. I din't mind calling but when it became obvious to me that I did not like what was happening, I had to put a stop to it, I stopped calling and texting. Guess what? Two (2) whole months went by and I did not hear from him!! Needless to say, I was grateful that I did not jump into something that was not mine.

“There is a spirit in man, and the inspiration of the almighty gives him understanding.” Job 32:8. You have to know that God will never put you in a situation without giving you a premonition. He will always give us warning signals. Now, whether you listen or you don’t is left to you. If a man is going to beat and assault you, he would have exhibited that trait at least once during your courtship. If he will be a drunk for the rest of his life, you would have seen it.



Another thing is us thinking we can change people. If you think a man will change because of you, then you are on a long thing. Only God can change someone. Period. If he womanizes now, and you keep saying he will change, he will change; I pity you. You know a man that lies more than the devil himself, he’s not going to change because of you. He might change just to get what he wants but if the change is not genuine from God, sooner or later, he’ll reveal himself.

Men and ladies with ungodly attitude will come to you, even in church, and even though you see their lifestyles as nothing acceptable in the sight to God, you stay with them. Such people will make you rationalize their sins such that you will begin to see their weaknesses as a work in progress in the hands of God when it is nothing but a weakness in their character.

Don't wave away warning signals and don't ignore signs that tell you what kind of a person the woman is. Even men need to watch a woman closely to be able to understand her and know know what she wants from you. We are in a season where women are desperate to get married, they want that ring on their finger and so they will pretend to be what they are not. That's why it's called "courtship", it's on trial, if it does not work then move on.

Be careful whom you yolk with because it’s  not just your marital live that would be at risk, but also your destiny and God’s plan for you life. Why would a strong woman settle for a weak man since it has been proven that the union of two bosses can build an empire?

12 comments

  1. lovely write up

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  2. Same thing also happened to me. I met this guy, he was PERFECT! I mean, he had everything I wanted in a guy.
    then we began dating...hmmmm...the first two months were rosy, we spoke on phone everyday, went out on dates, then gradually, I began to notice I was the one calling and texting. He stopped replying my texts, sometimes he would reject my call and text me later that he was busy. I made up my mind, that if a guy I am dating cannot spare 5mins of his 24hours or more, just to send me a txt or call me, then he didn't really want to be with me. I stopped calling him...one month after, we met at a funeral...he walked up to me and asked "what happened to us?" and I replied "your busy life happened" and walked out on him. I guess he understood I was no longer interested.

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  3. Only wanna tell that this is extremely helpful, Thanks for taking your time to write this.

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  4. I'm new to your blog but in the last twelve hours since I stumbled upon it, I've been really blessed. Each and every piece have been a blessing and I wanna say thank you for allowing urself to be used as a vessel to bless others.

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  5. lol, I couldn't have done it better. Thanks for sharing your story.

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  6. oh wow, that's amazing! I'm honored to be used by God and even more so, I'm glad you were blessed. Thanks for your kind words.

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  7. Nicely put...loved it...thats exactly how it is.We can always tell when something is not right so listen to your instincts people...May God keep us away from wrong men and lead the right man to us in His time.IJN amen.God Bless

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  8. I didn't knw we had bloggers dt are stl in tune wv God. I just found ds blog and am loving and enjoyn all d stuffs av read so far. Well done sis! God's blessings and wisdom.

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  9. lovely blog...hw come i never stumbled on dis blog all dis while?..good and Godly articles..its more lik God spoke directly to all d questions and confusion i ve been having....

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