Pastor: “….. Till Death Do You Part?” You: “I DO”

I've always considered these two words, “I DO”, the most powerful words anyone can confess, especially in the presence of God. Be it for a man or a woman, there comes a point in life when for that individual, it’s mostly going to be about when he/she will get the chance to declare “I DO”.

I love weddings; they are one of my favorite events to attend; especially if I know the couple or if I know their story. Weddings are beautiful and colorful, emotions are running wild, and there is laughter, tears and most importantly, lots of food. :) Everything looks perfect and one wonders what could go wrong?

But somewhere along the line, some of the time, something does go wrong. We start to see tears, anger, unforgiving spirit, transfer of aggression, fights, abuse, lies, cheating etc in a home that we thought was the epitome of God’s design. While in some other homes, we see joy unspeakable, happiness, smiles, contentment and a quiet peace.



So what’s the trick you ask? The answer is sadly, I don’t know. Even if I say God is the trick to a successful marriage, you will still think of at least one (1) Christian home that has fallen apart. However, this is what I do know:

  • Genesis 2:18 The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."

  • Psalm 32:8 “I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you and watch over you.

  • Psalm 11:3 “If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do?


Oh well, I guess its God after all. :) God is the author of marriage, and so how do we expect to successfully engage in the institution without him? If he authored it, then he alone has the manual for it and even though he has given us the physical manual – the Bible, he has also given us the spiritual manual – the Holy Spirit, who will guide & direct us. But you need a password to be able to get access to the Holy Spirit.

I’m not saying a “non-Christ” believing marriage is doomed for failure. I’m saying that it is better not to find out. Let’s not make marriage the height of our existence. It is not a password into heaven. The fulfillment of our destinies should be our greatest desire. When marriage is all you desire and all you crave, you become desperate and you settle for the wrong person and you say “I DO” and sometime later you want OUT! But this should not be so because marriage is a Covenant and not a Contract …… to be continued…..

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